Do you ever have that kind of feeling where you know there are cis women who consider themselves anti-terf because they definitely see trans women as women who deal with mysogyny. But then they cannot fully wrap their heads around the issues of feminism being so binary sometimes that it's difficult to talk about intersex, nonbinary and trans men without those people having to misgender themselves and or being alienated from the conversation. And it's almost like, transphobia specifically for people who are choosing to 'reject' being female?
Yuuup
Frustrating how specific issues that affect more than just cis women have to be centered entirely around cis women or they throw a fit about “erasing womanhood!!1!”
Like maybe the medical misogyny affecting you is also having an impact on me and maybe I’d like to not center other people when discussing issues that directly affect me. Maybe everyone being harmed here should be centered.
the whole narrative of nonbinary people being AFAB people who "reject womanhood" completely ignores AMAB nonbinary people. it completely ignores the intense solidarity and similarity of experiences that AMAB and AFAB nonbinary people often share
i have also noticed that the people who voice these binaristic, marginally-transphobic views often also react very negatively to anyone bringing up the fact that even some cis men also deal with many of the same issues women do, issues that include things like sexual assault, being socially conditioned to "people please" and ignore their own needs, or people talking over them or explaining things they already know to them in a condescending manner.
i think the problem here is that people get attached to the idea that there is a gender binary and men are more privileged than women
nonbinary and trans people throw a wrench in this because our experiences inherently span both genders to a degree.
but the idea even breaks down if you strictly look at gender-conforming cis people. gender-based oppression is never a simple binary, even when there are strong tendencies and trends, there are always complexities and exceptions.
rather than getting all pissy about it and lashing out at anyone who questions your rigid interpretation, it is a lot more empowering to band together and include everyone, and work together to end all forms of oppression.
if you are a cis woman and you have struggled with shitty socialization, being subjected to sexual assault, having men talk over you, facing major barriers in receiving good medical care because of your gender, and all sorts of gender-related bullshit small and large, we nonbinary and trans people are your allies. cis men who have also been subjected to some of these things? they are also our allies. we can all band together and we will be a hell of a lot stronger if we listen to each other with an open mind and a sense of solidarity and mutual support. let go of the gender binary, it is keeping us from banding together and tearing down the bad systems that hurt all of us. without it, this stuff is a lot easier to fix.
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