genderkoolaid
Anonymous asked:

Do you ever have that kind of feeling where you know there are cis women who consider themselves anti-terf because they definitely see trans women as women who deal with mysogyny. But then they cannot fully wrap their heads around the issues of feminism being so binary sometimes that it's difficult to talk about intersex, nonbinary and trans men without those people having to misgender themselves and or being alienated from the conversation. And it's almost like, transphobia specifically for people who are choosing to 'reject' being female?

asterosian answered:

Yuuup

Frustrating how specific issues that affect more than just cis women have to be centered entirely around cis women or they throw a fit about “erasing womanhood!!1!”

Like maybe the medical misogyny affecting you is also having an impact on me and maybe I’d like to not center other people when discussing issues that directly affect me. Maybe everyone being harmed here should be centered.

cazort

the whole narrative of nonbinary people being AFAB people who "reject womanhood" completely ignores AMAB nonbinary people. it completely ignores the intense solidarity and similarity of experiences that AMAB and AFAB nonbinary people often share

i have also noticed that the people who voice these binaristic, marginally-transphobic views often also react very negatively to anyone bringing up the fact that even some cis men also deal with many of the same issues women do, issues that include things like sexual assault, being socially conditioned to "people please" and ignore their own needs, or people talking over them or explaining things they already know to them in a condescending manner.

i think the problem here is that people get attached to the idea that there is a gender binary and men are more privileged than women

nonbinary and trans people throw a wrench in this because our experiences inherently span both genders to a degree.

but the idea even breaks down if you strictly look at gender-conforming cis people. gender-based oppression is never a simple binary, even when there are strong tendencies and trends, there are always complexities and exceptions.

rather than getting all pissy about it and lashing out at anyone who questions your rigid interpretation, it is a lot more empowering to band together and include everyone, and work together to end all forms of oppression.

if you are a cis woman and you have struggled with shitty socialization, being subjected to sexual assault, having men talk over you, facing major barriers in receiving good medical care because of your gender, and all sorts of gender-related bullshit small and large, we nonbinary and trans people are your allies. cis men who have also been subjected to some of these things? they are also our allies. we can all band together and we will be a hell of a lot stronger if we listen to each other with an open mind and a sense of solidarity and mutual support. let go of the gender binary, it is keeping us from banding together and tearing down the bad systems that hurt all of us. without it, this stuff is a lot easier to fix.

romanceyourdemons
cryptotheism

Your reaction to chatGPT instantly lets me know how easy it would be to trick you into thinking that you are haunted

cryptotheism

"omg it's literally alive!" Two beers, 45 minutes, deck of tarot cards, and I'm charging you 350$ for an exorcism.

cryptotheism

"I read an article that it's showing simple self-awareness" two days, mild preparation, hot and cold reading, I can get 60$ for joints laced with sacred sage

cryptotheism

"I just spoke to an AI and I'm... rattled to say the least, come with me on this dark journey" twenty minutes. I've got to science it up for you, but I can get you to come back every week to "disentangle the psychological imprint" for 125$

manywinged
cryptonature

Learning to delete/mute/block before a negative comment takes root in your mind is a modern survival skill. If you're going to wander the overgrown countryside of the internet, you need to develop a quick eye for ticks.

It's deeply tempting to respond to the "well, actually," to the cruel assumption, to the unjust accusation, to the odious viewpoint. It's tempting because you're defaulting to the etiquette of dinner conversation. This isn't a dinner conversation. Someone is shouting at you from a moving car. Turn away.

copperbadge

This is an extremely good and helpful sentiment, and one I’ve subscribed to for a long time. Delete the message quickly and permanently. Last time I got a nasty anon ask I skimmed it, realized what it was, and deleted it. Did one or two phrases sit with me for a while? Sure, maybe 20, 30 minutes. I really wanted to respond. But if I had, that cannonball would still be hanging around my neck and present on my blog, and as it is I don’t remember what it was about or even those two phrases that I thought I would. 

I also am of the opinion that it INFURIATES the commenter/sender not to get a response, because why would they be a dickhead if they didn’t want a response, so the longer time passes without one, the healthier I am and the angrier and more anxious they are. It’s good for your mental health AND the healthiest form of vengeance! 

desertdwellingforestcreature
autistic-af

When I was a child, many of my sensory issues were used as the butt of jokes by my family. I had many phobias due to these issues, but they were laughed off as they were seen as "extreme" or over the top.

Examples would be I was terrified of pinecones as young as 3 because I thought they were visually disturbing and dangerous. So, at the age of 4/5, we were in a park and I handed my mum my jacket so I could use the public loo. She proceeded to fill the pockets, sleeves and hood with pinecones.

I had a meltdown in the middle of a forest. I screamed and collapsed and i was told I was overreacting.

Now, this isn't good behaviour for an adult for any child.

But when you're an undiagnosed autistic, you begin to learn that your sensory pain doesn't matter. It's too much, and needs to be ignored.

Holding the door closed whilst the toilet flushed, another sensory pain was one done to me "for laughs". I was told it wasn't that big of a deal and I needed to grow up.

So, is it any wonder that late diagnosed (and probably many early diagnosed) autistics ignore their own needs? We don't want to be too much. We don't want to rock the boat and endure being told that we're overreacting and to just shut up.

theconcealedweapon

Some autistic people learn that this is how basic human interaction works. When something bothers someone, it's funny to do it just to provoke a reaction and laugh about it. So they do it to other people as an attempt at interacting with them.

But they missed the most important part of the rule. Only neurotypical people who are doing this to an autistic person can play the Kidding Card. Autistic people can't. Autistic people are held fully accountable when they make someone uncomfortable.

They end up constantly in trouble, disliked by everyone, and often even risk being physically attacked.

But they have no idea what they did wrong, because they were taught that it's how normal human interaction works, and because people who supposedly love them did it like it was nothing.

nyancrimew
leoposting

hello gay little people on my gay little website i just wanted to remind you to -dink water -smile -show childlike wonder at gods creation -bite at least one person you dont like -meow

theygender
dduane

The glass cliff, on the other hand, refers to the phenomenon by which women are more likely to be appointed to senior executive positions during times of organizational crisis, making them less likely to succeed. These newly appointed executives may confront internal board resistance, operate with less time flexibility, and ultimately receive shorter tenure than their male counterparts. And, when a woman CEO is terminated from her position, she is more likely than not to be replaced by a male (the “savior effect”).

the-home-kvetch

He's stepping down so people don't pay attention to Tesla recalling 1 mil. cars.

bear-of-mirrors

They’re WHAT???

prismatic-bell

Also the woman named is an alt-right Trump supporter so....